Harmonies family

The marriage conception of the tradition and nowadays has a big difference. In the past, the decision of marriage was made by parents, but now generally it is speaking made by people who want to get marry. Nowadays, some people have a bad thought that if both people are match, they will go together, if not, they will leave each other.

Recently, the family problems are increasing seriously, the third person, violence or some bad news.

It is bad that people both are match will go together, but if not they will leave each other. It makes the marriage not true and with fair view. Also, it is easy for the third person to join. In fact, the contract of marriage is becoming no use. At the beginning, people both promise that facing with whatever problems, they won’t leave each. Does it misunderstanding let people go together and understanding lets people separate?

In fact, some family problems are related to money. During the bad economic periods, in order to have enough money to pay for family daily life, some of the parents have to work for long time to earn more money. It directly decreases the communication time, children may lack care. Also, parents work very hard to earn money; they may easily get angry when children do not work-hard.

Besides, some of the parents may lack education. Sometimes they may not know how to love their children. Occasionally, they may use violence but no care to control their children, because they do not have enough education and their parents also used this kind of methods to teach them. Although they love their children, they do not know how to do.

There are some problems resulted from family problems. First of all, if the family problems are happening when the children are still young, children may feel scared easier. The bad childhood image affects their growth directly. Children cannot find love and care in the family, they may find it in other places, such as church, school, but they may also meet bad friend and commit crimes.

Secondly, if the family problems cannot be solved, it is easy to have divorce. It is certain that it will affect the relationship of both families.

Thirdly, if the family problems are very serious for the lower Emotional Qualification (EQ) people, they cannot have a good control to their mood. It is easy for them to have violent act when they feel unhappy, so family problems may bring family violence. In turn, family violence will bring casualty tragedies.

In order to solve the family problems directly, I think something need to be done.

Communication----Family should have enough communication which can help to build up relationship. From the good communication it is easy to care for the other family members.

Finding helps----If there are family problems, we need to find volunteers quickly to help to solve problems from becoming serious.

Consideration----All people have their own problem, if we can have consideration to the others, it comes a warm family.