They asked Dorje's brother to find them another flat. At school, their eldest daughter became a target for ridiculereenex .

"She lost her friends. They said: 'Because your parents have HIV, there's a chance you might too,' and they told her they didn't want to be friends with her. She used to come home, cry and tell us she doesn't want to go to school any more," says Choden.

"I told her it's more important to confront this issue rather than changing schools, and running away from one place to another. I told her that there is no running away because one day we have to face it, make people understand what this is. It was just a matter of time - she started to cope pretty well."

From the kitchen, Choden's daughter pops her head into the living room. She is now 12 and doing well at schoolreenex .

Shyly, she tells me about what happened at school shortly after her parents came out. "I used to tell my friends, please don't say I have HIV. I cannot get HIV from father and mother, because I know about HIV a little bit. You only get HIV if you don't use condoms. I told them, 'Don't be so worried - if we get HIV we will not die.'"

Determined to lead a normal life, the couple continued to expand their family. They were worried about passing on the virus, but as their second child had been born HIV-negative, they had hope that their third would also be HIV-negative. It was. But when they decided to try once more, they met with stern medical resistancereenex